It is one thing to be sweet to your spouse on date night, go that extra mile when it’s a special day, or never say anything bad about them. It is a whole new ball game to be someone your spouse can brag on. This is the kind of #marriedup everyone should shoot for.
This type of marriage involves an entire lifestyle and mindset. Your goal is to do, be, say, and exemplify every thing you can to make it so your spouse loves to brag on you… and not be lying.
My wife and I love to brag on each other, especially on social media. It’s fun, and it’s a way that we can build each other up. It is one thing to compliment your spouse and thank them to their face, but public recognition brings a whole new level of appreciation.
I mean think about this, my wife is beautiful, cooks, cleans, has some sweet defined delts, and she puts up with me, which is saying a lot. I know I’m a turd sometimes, but hey we are 12 plus years and going strong, and that is a feat in this day and age.
Now listen, I’m not saying you have to be perfect in every aspect. Just ask yourself a couple simple questions like these, and then really think deeply about your role in your relationship:
- Do I go to work come home and sit like Al Bundy, or do you come home and do what you can to help your wife with dishes, cooking, laundry, and the kids? (ps, if you have to think about the last time you helped with chores, it was too long ago).
- Do I nag my husband anytime he doesn’t do things my way, or anytime he needs to get away for a few minutes?
- When was the last time I went above and beyond for my wife?
- Do I marginalize him as a father because his parenting style is tougher and less nurturing?
- Do I encourage and support my spouse in their hobbies?
- Do I make it a point to regularly speak their love language?
- Do I give to them even when I am exhausted from the day and feel I have nothing left to give?
- Do I serve my spouse like Christ and His bride?
These aren’t the only questions to ask yourselves, but they are a great place to start. Maybe even use them as a starting place for a deep and intimate conversation about your marriage, and how you can take it to the next level.
Remember if you want a powerful and thriving marriage, you have to work at it and you have to create it. Don’t create burnout and strife in your relationship. Create life and a new level of intimacy that your spouse can brag on. Marriage is all about serving your spouse…both of you, man and woman.
This next statement isn’t meant to be some guilt trip, but your kids are watching too. Set the bar high for them and their expectations of how great a marriage should be when they get to that age.
Finally, think on what Hebrews 10:24 says. It is in reference to the edification of the gathering of the saints, but what if you applied it to your marriage as well.
let us consider how to stimulate one another to love and good deeds
When you brag on your spouse you are spurring them on to love and good deeds. It doesn’t matter if you have been married one week, or five decades, start today in becoming someone your spouse can brag on. Follow that old saying, “be the change you want to see.” As far as it depends on you, be a great spouse.
When was the last time you bragged on your spouse in public?
What can you do today to be someone your spouse can brag on?