In a society that has become full of people who are hell bent on proving their point, who have Facebook courage they lack in real life, and full of those that would bash you if you dare to disagree with them, I have seen followers of Christ get caught up in the drama of fighting over nothing.
I say this from a first hand perspective of course, because I too have been caught up in heated arguments on Facebook. There was a time a couple of years ago when somebody insulted my friend publicly through Facebook, and me being the good Facebook police officer that so many of us get in the habit of becoming, took it upon myself to defend him.
This particular discussion became heated to the point that I almost lost a number of friendships and clients through the collateral damage. Thankfully the Lord redeemed the situation and everything was cleared up.
This incident in and of itself taught me a very valuable lesson. Facebook is not the place to argue, but more importantly, some arguments are just not worth it.
Let me start with 2 scriptures that really stand out to me about this then I will explain a little more.
Greater love has no one than this, that one lay down his life for his friends. – John 15:13
If anyone wishes to come after Me, he must deny himself, and take up his cross and follow Me. For whoever wishes to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for My sake and the gospel’s will save it. – Mark 8:34-35
While I’m sure Jesus had in mind the ultimate sacrifice of laying down your actual physical life, I think we can also apply this to a simpler standard.
The New Testament commonly refers to the flesh or the self which is in constant battle with the Spirit. Now, this self or flesh wants to be fed. It wants to be strong, because in being strong it is able to fight against the spirit.
Sometimes we have to just walk away from an argument. I’m definitely not saying to compromise your morals or ethics. What I am saying is that on some occasions we can do more harm by arguing than we can by being silent.
Trust me, there have been many times when I have wanted to give a good old-fashioned social media smack down, but the truth of the matter is it was probably going to cause more harm than good.
You don’t always have to be right. That is just the flesh talking.
You don’t always have to get your point across. There will always be those who will be set on misunderstanding you.
When you continue to push a conversation (or even jump in one that we don’t need to) that is going nowhere you are only serving the flesh. You can’t make somebody believe something, and you can’t be mad at them for not having the same revelation that you have.
Sometimes it’s just better to walk away. You don’t have to be right. Don’t allow the flesh to get the best of you.
Sometimes the greatest love you can show is laying down your “right” to be right. Maybe denying your self and just picking up your cross (you know that big, burdensome, heavy, painful thing that Jesus eventually leads us to) really is the best thing we can do. This goes for social media, marriage, or friendships.
Yeah it can be painful sometimes because we just want that person to “see the light” a.k.a. “our way”, but we don’t always have to be right. Take it from me, someone who almost lost some great relationships because I had to be right, it’s really not worth it. The next time you sense a social media smack down coming on, ask yourself, “Is this really worth it? Do I have to be right or understood?”
Have you ever been in an argument that ended up costing you a friendship because you had to be right?