Ever notice how kids are not ashamed to ask for help? Then we grow up and get hard headed, and we lose that willingness to seek help. Jesus taught us an amazing lesson in saying, “unless you become like a child” (Matt. 18:3). How often do we resist asking for help to only suffer alone? Here’s a funny story about asking for help, and the powerful lesson from a little boy.
I Need Help
I think one of the funniest stories I can remember from the five years my wife and I owned our gym was during one of our evening classes. One of our clients would bring her son to class with her, and he would hang out in the lobby area to eat a snack and watch movies or play games.
One evening everyone was in the back warming up and preparing for class. The music had not been turned on yet, so it was pretty quiet except for everyone talking to each other.
Now, you have to understand this boy was about four or five, and had a pretty thick southern accent when he said this, so use that as you imagine the situation. All of a sudden we hear a yell from up front.
“I neeeeeed heeeeellllpppp!”
We all started laughing, and went to see what he needed. He couldn’t get a wrapper open on one of the items in his lunchable. It was such a simple task, but he couldn’t get it open and cried out for help.
I’m laughing to myself even now as I remember the story.
Out of the mouths of babes
There is such a powerful lesson in this story.
How often do we try to hide our pain and our struggles?
How often are we too prideful to ask for help with what may be the simplest thing?
The truth is we were never meant to do it [insert your personal struggle, whether it be your marriage, your life, addiction, or anything] alone. Solomon put it this way,
Iron sharpens iron, So one man sharpens another. – Proverbs 27:17
When we ask for help we allow ourselves to be sharpened. It can be a simple task such as opening your lunchable. The task may be difficult for you, but simple for someone who has walked that road before.
Asking for help is scary, because it makes you vulnerable.
- What will the other person think?
- Are they going to judge me?
- Can I trust them?
- I don’t need help. I can beat this on my own.
I know. I’ve had all these thoughts and questions myself before when asking for help. Asking for help through confession and humbleness brings healing to your mind, body, and spirit. (James 5:16)
Our society wants to promote the “self-made man.” We perpetuate the cycle that asking for help is a sign of weakness. Asking for help says I am wise enough to know that I’m not strong enough to handle this on my own. Hear this next part clearly:
Asking for help is obeying scripture and fulfilling the law of Christ. Asking for help not only sharpens you but it exponentially raises your faith to know your brother or sister is standing with you. Paul summed it up in Galatians 6:2
Bear one another’s burdens, and thereby fulfill the law of Christ.
This word “bear” means to “take up with the hands; to take up in order to carry or bear; to put upon one’s self (something) to be carried; to bear what is burdensome.” We are not only called to carry each other’s burdens, but we are instructed to allow others to help us in our burdens.
Whether you are having trouble with:
- managing your time,
- your marriage
- managing your life,
- or any other plethora of things that burden you.
Do not be ashamed to ask for help.
We have to become like little children and be humble enough to ask for help. Trust me, I’m preaching to myself to some extent in this too. I am just as hard headed as the next guy, and want to do it on my own sometimes. Here are some ways to ask for help.
How To Ask For Help
First, off don’t just think about getting help. Do it. Here’s some ways to ask for help.
- Pray about it – Don’t just pray about your situation. Ask the Lord to bring a confidant to mind that you can trust and share your situation with. The truth is, sometimes you may have to pay for a trusted and solid resource that can help you, but pray about who you should seek help from.
- Ask – Contact that person through text, email, phone call, or whatever way you need to. Give them an idea of the situation, and ask for their help. Set up a time to meet up. Depending on the sensitivity of the situation, plan a meeting in an accommodating spot.
- Do – After you pray about it, you actually have to do something about it. Don’t wait for some magical flashing sign like in Bruce Almighty. Pray about it and meet with someone. Establish an action plan, and ask yourself some serious questions. The person you meet with should be able to help you with questions like these. (This isn’t an end all be all list. It’s just something to get you started). What is the problem? What steps will you take today to make progress? What is your timeline?
- Keep Doing – Don’t ask for help, meet once, and then never do anything again. Keep making progress, and keep moving forward. Stagnant water only breads death and disease.
Friends, don’t be scared or ashamed to ask for help. When you ask, it shows your strength not your weakness. If you need to, just yell out, “I Need Heeeelllpppp.”