You have two vital relationships in your life. One that sits above the other, and greatly impacts how you interact with the other. People often complain about or make excuses why one or both of those relationships are failing. It’s time to stop making excuses and start taking responsibility.

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Those two relationships that I am referring to of course are your walk with the Lord and your marriage. If you want them to grow and be successful you have to choose to be intentional in nurturing them.

Habits aren’t something that just magically appear one day after you have thought about them enough. No, habits are formed by the intentional actions you choose to make day in and day out.


Your Faith

If you want a deeper walk with the Lord, but refuse to make time to read your Bible, pray, seek the Lord, or have fellowship with other believers, you are the greatest roadblock to your own success. It’s time to stop making excuses, and start taking responsibility for you.

It’s not your pastor’s fault that he didn’t preach a good enough message; or the worship team because you didn’t feel the presence of God. It’s not because your parents didn’t show you the Lord.

Quit making excuses that you don’t have time to read the Bible, pray, or meditate on the Lord. How much time do you spend perusing social media? And, if you say you get bored reading the Bible, you have bigger problems at hand. No one said you had to sit down and read through Leviticus or Deuteronomy, which I must say are probably some of the most boring books.

The Word should invigorate your soul, as should spending time with the Lord. It’s a relationship, and should not be a burden.


Your Marriage

If you want a thriving marriage, that doesn’t just happen over night either. You have to be intentional about nurturing that relationship as well. When was your last date night? How often do you sit and have intimate conversations with your spouse? Are you spending more time with your face in your phone than looking in your spouse’s face?

Don’t say “well, my husband never does this,” or “my wife always does that.”

What are you doing to nurture your relationship?

There is a vicious cycle in marriage that is equal parts loving and feeling loved. When that cycle gets off somewhere, you have to be intentional about getting it back on track. Someone has to give in. Are you going to make an excuse or take action?

Stop making excuses for why your marriage is failing, and start taking responsibility. Paul tells us in the famous love chapter of 1 Corinthians, “love never gives up.” If you are acting in love you are not giving up on your marriage.


We have fostered a society of entitled people who want to play the blame game for their problems without having personal accountability. Well, no more. It’s time to put your hand to the plow and get to work (and, no I’m not saying your salvation comes by works).

The depth of your revelation of Christ stands in direct correlation to the success of your marriage. If you want to go deeper in your walk with the Lord, and have a thriving marriage, stop making excuses and start taking responsibility.

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