Some women love diamonds, while some love massages. Some men love guns, while others love sports memorabilia. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I know some love both. Ok, maybe a lot love both. I get it. But, you see the point. We all love getting things. Gifts are actually one of the love languages that Dr. Gary Chapman presents in his book, The 5 Love Languages.

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But, I believe there is a greater gift that stands above all of these. It is the most valuable gift you can ever give your spouse. This gift of course is second to the representation of Christ to your spouse. What is it, you may ask?


Making your spouse and your relationship a priority is important to the success of your marriage. If you are always putting work, playing golf, going out with the guys or girls, taking care of what you want, that means your spouse is not a priority. This is why marriage is the 2nd tier in your waterfall. (If you don’t know what I’m referring to about the waterfall, go HERE.)

Now, don’t get me wrong here. I believe spouses need their own time to work on the things that they like. But, if you are going to work early and getting home late every day, and can’t even have an intimate conversation with your spouse each day, something is wrong.

If every weekend is spent working on your hobby, going out with your friends, or even doing anything and everything for your kids. Your spouse is falling down the totem pole.

So, here are 8 simple ways you can make your spouse a priority.

1. Go On A Date Regularly

My wife and I have date night every Friday night because it is a priority for us. And, it doesn’t have to be expensive; here are 25 cheap and easy dates.

2. Get Rid Of The Kids For The Weekend

Stay at the house and watch movies together, or go for hikes. Spend a weekend with no kids to help up the intimacy. Don’t go work on anything else except your relationship.

3. Have Sex When You Don’t Want To

O.M.G he totally said the “S” word. Yeah, I went there. Sex is vital to a marriage, as I have already discussed HERE and HERE. Make it happen. What can make it even better, is to make it sporadic.

4. Listen

No, don’t just listen, but really When your spouse comes to talk to you, put everything down and give them your full attention. Your spouse is more important than your phone, bubble breaker, Facebook, email, or CSI. Show them they are more valuable than any of these by giving them your undivided attention.

5. Cook Them A Romantic Dinner

Feed the kids a little early if you have to. Kick them out of the room, and light a candle or two. Or on the weekend that the kids are gone, make a special dinner. Make a meal that you can sit and stare into each other’s eyes.

6. (GUYS) Get Up Off The Chair

Avoid the recliner gentleman. Don’t go home and be a bum and sit in your chair. Talk to your wife. Engage her in conversation, and listen to her. *cough *cough point number four *cough. Help her with the dishes and laundry. Give her a little break.

7. (LADIES) Dress It Up

If you are a stay at home mom, or even a working mom, dress it up a little for your hubby. Let’s be real, men are visual creatures. We like to look at pretty things. That’s why he picked you. Don’t get complacent with him. Give him something to look at 😉

8. Compliment Each Other

It’s easy to get distracted by the day-to-day monotony, but a simply word of encouragement goes a long way. Point out your wife’s beauty when she may not feel it, (I proposed to Amber when she was sick, had pink eye, and was all disheveled. Do you think she felt “beautiful” at that time? Probably not, but she was and is still to me.) or point out your husband’s work he did on fixing something or mowing the lawn.


Don’t get complacent in your relationship. Start making it a habit to make your spouse a priority. This truly is the most valuable gift that you can give them.

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