Last week I had the honor of becoming a contributing writer to another site. Here is my first post on Raising Godly Children where they discuss marriage, raising children, family life, and more. You can read the first portion here, and then check out the rest on their site.

Next to your walk with the Lord, your marriage is the most important relationship you have. It is vital to continue to nurture it, grow, and better yourself. Below, I want to share three reasons why I believe your spouse deserves a better you.


They Have Changed, And So Have You

Think back to when you first got married, and then look at your life now. I’m taking a shot in the dark here, but I’m going to venture to guess you both are different. Your likes and dislikes may have changed, you might have children, you have finished or gone back to school, or your careers may have changed. Whatever it may be, things are different.

If you are walking with the Lord, He is continually moving you down the road. Our personal lives are never meant to be stationary, and yet they directly impact our marriages. As you and your spouse change throughout the varying seasons of your marriage, you have to become a better you.

My wife and I got married when we were 19 and 20, respectively. If I still acted like a 20 year old now, over a decade later, we would be in trouble. Am I still immature and goof around? Of course I do, but spiritually, mentally, and emotionally I have matured. This maturity allows me to love my wife greater.

I had to become better to be a better husband. I had to make a choice to learn some hard lessons financially, spiritually, mentally, and emotionally so that I could grow in these areas. I can honestly say my love at 20 was an immature love, but today I have grown from that immaturity.

To quote Paul,

Not that I have already obtained it or have already become perfect, but I press on so that I may lay hold of that for which also I was laid hold of by Christ Jesus. – Philippians 3:12

I continue to pursue a greater level of maturity in my love, respect, and adoration of my wife because she deserves a better me. She deserves for me to mature and grow to love her better.

Determine to grow with your spouse, and become a better you as the days, weeks, and years go by.

– Read the rest at: Raising Godly Children

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